In memory of my grand-aunt Marjorie, sister of my beloved Grampy, who passed away October 31, 2001 in Ontario. Reunited with her beloved husband Tom, brothers, Ralph and Lloyd, and parents Percy and Helen.
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Thursday's Thoughts
I'm a blogger. Have been for quite a few years now. They were much more frequent back when Yahoo360 was up and running and when they shut that down I tried a few before settling on this one. I don't use it often but try to when I feel I have something to share or need to get something off my chest that is making me have thoughts of hiding rolls of pennies in my pillowcase and then challenging my husband to a pillow fight. As a blogger, I have also been a reader of many and I have to wonder at what point did "expressing yourself" become permission to be a malicious bastard?
For years and years and years people have preached love and acceptance of others, can't we all just get along, be kind to your neighbor, do unto others as you would have them do onto you, and I have to say, these people obviously don't surf the web! Or maybe they do and they are just hypocrites hiding behind the freedom to express themselves while claiming "It's MY page and I can say/do whatever the hell I want!"
This doesn't just apply to blogs. It applies to any place on-line you post really. Chat rooms, your facebook, myspace (do they even still have that?). Anyplace you can access online and hide behind the anonymity of the internet. Or should I say "feel" you can hide behind.
Anytime you post anything, and I mean ANYTHING, on-line there is a chance it will come back to bite you on the ass. HARD. Sharing parts of yourself can come with high consequences. Consequences you better be willing to accept when putting fingers to keyboard and typing out the secrets of your world cause sometimes what you think is anonymous or "just your opinion" can be hurtful, hateful and just possibly may cost you things in your life you hold dear like a job, spouse or some other loved ones respect (there's a wellknown blogger who now makes her living off it after she got fired from her job after posting about a co-worker).
We all have bad days. Sometimes get angry with someone/something and say things in the heat of anger we wish wish wishhhhhh we didn't say and could take back. If you are arguing with someone face to face and say it you just pray they have a memory like mine and eventually they forget (or the pain of those words dwindles some), but you put those angry thoughts down in type and blatantly spell out who they are towards, that is out there for good! You see it. Your friends see it. And usually the person you were being a "malicious bastard" towards sees it. And while at that moment you too may have wanted to hide rolls of pennies in your pillowcase and challenge them to a pillowfight, eventually you calm down and sanity kicks back in. That is, of course, until your "friends" and other readers start the comments. The comments that I "hope" are made in the attempt to support you and not made in an effort to egg you on and get you even more riled up. The comments made based on their own opinions of the one-side of the story they have been getting but cause they are your "friends" may feel it is their DUTY to jump in there and ALSO be a malicious bastard towards whomever you were pissed at. Ahhhh "gang mentality".
As I mentioned, many of us likely have days where someone makes us feel homicidal thoughts. There have been some ongoing issues in my own world the last few months that could open up a verbal floodgate that could quite possibly never close, but out of respect for people I LOVE. People I don't want to hurt (other then the occasional penny pillowfight or half-sized rolls for those under the age of 16), I keep that crap off-line and discuss it with the person it SHOULD be discussed with, not the billions of people on the internet who have no part in the issue.
As a parent, I feel, it is my responsibility to try and teach my children that while you are certainly entitled to your opinion on things there is definitely a way to relay that opinion to others while trying to cause as little hurt, hate, or offense. After all, I certainly don't want anyone purposely hurting, hating or being offensive to my child so why would it be okay for THEM to purposely be hurtful, hateful or offensive to others?
For years and years and years people have preached love and acceptance of others, can't we all just get along, be kind to your neighbor, do unto others as you would have them do onto you, and I have to say, these people obviously don't surf the web! Or maybe they do and they are just hypocrites hiding behind the freedom to express themselves while claiming "It's MY page and I can say/do whatever the hell I want!"
This doesn't just apply to blogs. It applies to any place on-line you post really. Chat rooms, your facebook, myspace (do they even still have that?). Anyplace you can access online and hide behind the anonymity of the internet. Or should I say "feel" you can hide behind.
Anytime you post anything, and I mean ANYTHING, on-line there is a chance it will come back to bite you on the ass. HARD. Sharing parts of yourself can come with high consequences. Consequences you better be willing to accept when putting fingers to keyboard and typing out the secrets of your world cause sometimes what you think is anonymous or "just your opinion" can be hurtful, hateful and just possibly may cost you things in your life you hold dear like a job, spouse or some other loved ones respect (there's a wellknown blogger who now makes her living off it after she got fired from her job after posting about a co-worker).
We all have bad days. Sometimes get angry with someone/something and say things in the heat of anger we wish wish wishhhhhh we didn't say and could take back. If you are arguing with someone face to face and say it you just pray they have a memory like mine and eventually they forget (or the pain of those words dwindles some), but you put those angry thoughts down in type and blatantly spell out who they are towards, that is out there for good! You see it. Your friends see it. And usually the person you were being a "malicious bastard" towards sees it. And while at that moment you too may have wanted to hide rolls of pennies in your pillowcase and challenge them to a pillowfight, eventually you calm down and sanity kicks back in. That is, of course, until your "friends" and other readers start the comments. The comments that I "hope" are made in the attempt to support you and not made in an effort to egg you on and get you even more riled up. The comments made based on their own opinions of the one-side of the story they have been getting but cause they are your "friends" may feel it is their DUTY to jump in there and ALSO be a malicious bastard towards whomever you were pissed at. Ahhhh "gang mentality".
As I mentioned, many of us likely have days where someone makes us feel homicidal thoughts. There have been some ongoing issues in my own world the last few months that could open up a verbal floodgate that could quite possibly never close, but out of respect for people I LOVE. People I don't want to hurt (other then the occasional penny pillowfight or half-sized rolls for those under the age of 16), I keep that crap off-line and discuss it with the person it SHOULD be discussed with, not the billions of people on the internet who have no part in the issue.
As a parent, I feel, it is my responsibility to try and teach my children that while you are certainly entitled to your opinion on things there is definitely a way to relay that opinion to others while trying to cause as little hurt, hate, or offense. After all, I certainly don't want anyone purposely hurting, hating or being offensive to my child so why would it be okay for THEM to purposely be hurtful, hateful or offensive to others?
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Sometimes, a swift kick in the arse is EXACTLY what you need!
So it has been a little while since I have done a blog and an even longer one since I have done a WW one. I'm still going, but have been struggling for quite awhile now. I could sit here and say it has been due to this or that but when you come right down to it, any reason I could give for NOT doing what needs to be done would be just an excuse. All this became abundantly clear during a recent conversation (that's a nice way of putting it) between my husband and myself. I don't even remember how it all came about, I just remember me being pissy and saying something about not feeling like I had any support (which really is a big crock of crap) and him calmly telling me that they (him and the kids) do support me. Now since I'm miserable and pissy, the last thing I want is for you to be calm and happy damn it so I said some other stuff which I can not even remember and he replied without a not so calm reply of "Nanc, we DO support you but when was the last time YOU wrote anything down? Weighed/measured out what you were putting on your plate? I can't make you do it or do it for you!"
It was like he bent me over and gave me a good swift kick in the arse with his steel-toed workboot.
He was right! (God I never thought I'd see me type that ever - and if you ever tell him I said it, I will deny it)
You either have to "shit or get off the pot."
In the past, a part of the WW spiel has been about positive self talk and while great in theory, sometimes the "there-thereing" you get from others and even yourself when people are trying to be supportive, really isn't as helpful as a bitchslap to the side of the head and a smarten the F up! And while I'm sure I was pissed off but what my husband said, I knew he was right somewhere deep inside, so decided against killing him in his sleep and hiding the body. (Although I bet I could get a load of activity points dragging him around and digging a hole)
Needless to say, last week was a really good week (each and every day which is something I haven't been able to say for awhile) and when I stepped on the scale Tuesday I was down 2.8 pounds (I'd skipped the week before) bringing my total FINALLY past the 25 pounds marker to a grand total of 26.3 pounds lost!
Hurray for kicks in the arse!
It was like he bent me over and gave me a good swift kick in the arse with his steel-toed workboot.
He was right! (God I never thought I'd see me type that ever - and if you ever tell him I said it, I will deny it)
You either have to "shit or get off the pot."
In the past, a part of the WW spiel has been about positive self talk and while great in theory, sometimes the "there-thereing" you get from others and even yourself when people are trying to be supportive, really isn't as helpful as a bitchslap to the side of the head and a smarten the F up! And while I'm sure I was pissed off but what my husband said, I knew he was right somewhere deep inside, so decided against killing him in his sleep and hiding the body. (Although I bet I could get a load of activity points dragging him around and digging a hole)
Needless to say, last week was a really good week (each and every day which is something I haven't been able to say for awhile) and when I stepped on the scale Tuesday I was down 2.8 pounds (I'd skipped the week before) bringing my total FINALLY past the 25 pounds marker to a grand total of 26.3 pounds lost!
Hurray for kicks in the arse!
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Sunday Outting
Just wanted to share some recent photos of the drive we took on Sunday, July 3. Hubby wanted to go check out the new aquarium in St. Andrew's but it isn't finished yet so we drove up to St. George to check out the St. George Gorge (and grab a pic of an ancestor's gravemarker). It's a shame that they do not utilize the old building you see on the lefthand side of the photo. We went up to the top part but you can only get so far before it is locked up and fenced in.
My kids who, of course, weren't to keen on the idea of jumping in a vehicle and spending the day with their *GASP* parents really enjoyed the scenery and according to my son "this is awesome!"
Since we had to pass it to come home, we stopped into Lepreau on the way home to check for some other ancestors and came across this little spot.
Thursday, June 30, 2011
For you family tree trackers
Until July 4, 2011, Ancestry is offering FREE access to the US Sons of the American Revolution database
http://search.ancestry.com/search/db.aspx?dbid=2204&o_iid=48528&o_lid=48528&o_sch=Web+Property
http://search.ancestry.com/search/db.aspx?dbid=2204&o_iid=48528&o_lid=48528&o_sch=Web+Property
Monday, June 27, 2011
Out of the mouths of husbands!
After supper tonight, hubby, the kids and I decided to head on over to the Nature Park for a walk. By the time we got there it was about 7:30 so we decided to park outside the park entrance and walk the Squirrel Trail, think it's something like 35-40 minutes? We are probably about three quarters of the way done when we notice something on the path ahead of us...
Husband to son: STOP! Look up in front of you on the path! A porcupine!
My son, who apparently thinks he is Porcupine Dundee, proceeds up the path to get a closer look.
Me, the freaky mother hen that I am, yell at him to back away from it incase he gets to close and it feels threatened!
Son: What will it do?
Me: Well he "could" turn around and come at you and try and stick you with his quills!
Son: What do we do if he does turn around?
Husband: We turn and run the other way. All we have to do is be able to outrun your mom! (since I'm obviously the slowest LMAO)
I love family outtings!
Husband to son: STOP! Look up in front of you on the path! A porcupine!
My son, who apparently thinks he is Porcupine Dundee, proceeds up the path to get a closer look.
Me, the freaky mother hen that I am, yell at him to back away from it incase he gets to close and it feels threatened!
Son: What will it do?
Me: Well he "could" turn around and come at you and try and stick you with his quills!
Son: What do we do if he does turn around?
Husband: We turn and run the other way. All we have to do is be able to outrun your mom! (since I'm obviously the slowest LMAO)
I love family outtings!
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Genealogy - Mountain View Cemetery, Vancouver, BC
http://vancouver.ca/commsvcs/nonmarketoperations/mountainview/burials/index.htm
A distant cousin passed along this site to me and I had to make sure it made it into a blog incase I ever have to reformat my computer again cause I ALWAYS forget to note my fav websites for genealogy and keep losing them!
A distant cousin passed along this site to me and I had to make sure it made it into a blog incase I ever have to reformat my computer again cause I ALWAYS forget to note my fav websites for genealogy and keep losing them!
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